Are you pregnant with twins? Even having one baby is one of the most exciting time of your life as a parent. It only gets more exciting when you find out you’ll be having twins. It is a scary thought and a demanding task to be raising and caring for two different individuals at the same time. And it can get overwhelming having twins. Here are practical tips on how you can care for your twins while keeping your sanity.
Have the basics ready such as the car seats, strollers for two and bassinets. It would also be a good idea to stock up on your diapers if you plan to use disposables or if you plan to use cloth diapers, complete your stash enough for two babies to use. Expect to do a lot of diaper changes in the first few months.
Go Second Hand
It is ok to accept baby clothes donations or buy second hand baby items especially when having twins. Your expenses will be far greater when having twins, so conserve your money. Check with your friends or other family members for they may have pre-loved baby items like mittens, onesies, booties or frog suits. You can even get things such as reusable cloth diapers from family or friends to save some money there. Babies grow up fast anyway so these infant clothes will be outgrow in no time.
Ask For Help
Do not be afraid (or hesitant) to ask for help and accept if someone offers to help. Your name is not Superwoman and you don’t have to do everything. Pregnant with twins? Having twins can be difficult and it’s ok to ask from people around you to help you in little things like folding the laundry or washing the dishes.
Consider hiring someone for help if you can afford it. Chances are, you will put household chores somewhere in the middle or the bottom of your list and that’s fine. It’s right that you prioritize your babies’ needs. Hiring help who can clean your house for you will take that load off tremendously.
If you’re pregnant with twins, you need to decide if you will breastfeed both babies full time. If you plan to breastfeed your twins, get the support you need. Breastfeeding multiples is possible but you need to have the right people around you. Get a lactation consultant to help you get started and do not be afraid to ask the consultant to visit you at home so she could check on the babies’ latch and position. Lactation consultants are there to teach you the right techniques and will continue to motivate you so you will have a successful breastfeeding journey. When having twins, it is helpful to join a support group for breastfeeding multiples can very helpful.
Parenting Support Groups
Aside from joining a support group for breastfeeding, you may want to check your local community if there are support groups for parents having twins or multiples. It always feels good and reassuring to be with parents who are experiencing the same situation as you. There you get to share the challenges you face and get practical advice. And once you are a little more experienced, you could help others. If you can’t find any support group nearby and you’re pregnant with twins, consider joining an online twins forum instead.
Keep the communication line with your spouse or partner open. Having a baby, more so if you’re having twins, can create an enormous strain on your relationship. This is a huge life-changing event so it is important that you keep on communicating. The endless diaper changing and feeding combined with heightened stress level primarily caused by lack of sleep can make even the small things blow up into proportions. Talk to your partner about how you feel and how both of you could share the responsibilities in terms of caring for the babies and the other stuff at home.
Try to stay calm. It is easy to lose your cool when you hear both babies cry at the same time and both of them need your attention. Take a deep breath and try to stay calm as much as possible.
Get The Appropriate Stroller For When You’re Having Twins
Invest on a good stroller and look for one that fits your lifestyle and budget. You can either get one that is made especially for twins or borrow an umbrella stroller and get a baby carrier. It’s up to you.
Get Out Of The House
Try and get out of the house as often as you can. This may be a little challenging but a short walk, even just around the block, can be refreshing for you and the twins.
Take advantage of delivery services. There are many shops that offer delivery services for your groceries. The good thing about this is that you avoid impulse purchases and you are able to plan ahead. Not only that, this will also save you a trip to the grocery store and save you a lot of time.
Time With Your Partner
Spend time with your spouse or partner. Both of you could get caught up with the responsibilities of raising two babies that you forget your relationship as a couple. Find a way to have a time with your partner even if it’s just a dinner or a coffee date. If leaving the house is really not possible then share a cuddle or two when both the babies are asleep.
Take A Break
When you’re pregnant with twins, you may need a break just from thinking about it. Once the twins arrive, don’t forget to give yourself a well-deserved break. It can be as simple as an uninterrupted bath or a quick trip to the salon for a good haircut or a pedicure. Find the time for yourself to just relax for a while before you go back into that crazy routine at home.